But technology has changed our lives in ways we could never have predicted—these changes are nowhere more perceptible than in the way our relationships evolve. Reconnecting with a childhood neighbor, high school sweetheart, or the workplace crush you never spoke to is as easy as a few clicks of a button. So rather than debating whether or not to make that first move while you try to imagine all the possible outcomes (from best-case scenario to worst-case scenario), why not just make an informed decision? Probably not. You’ve done oodles of self-work between then and now. You’re a more resourceful, self-aware, interesting person than you were then. Prepare yourself for the fact that the person you fell for all those years ago might not be. People evolve. They grow to different degrees and at different speeds. And it’s possible that the guy you thought really might be someone great if he could just get past his rejection issues has, in fact, done that. But that doesn’t guarantee that he’ll want to submerge his newly healthy heart into the waters of this particular relationship.
