While the twin flame theory resonates with me, I have a couple of issues with it. The idea of twin flames can make people believe there is only one person who will be able to fulfill them romantically. I believe that when we look at romantic partners and destiny, it’s not “the one” but more like that Marine recruiting slogan: “The few. The proud.” Don’t let the idea of a “perfect” twin flame be an excuse not to get out in the real world and date. Perfection does not exist, and believing that it does can be highly self-sabotaging. Also, you don’t need anyone to complete you or your soul. Sometimes we make it seem like the ideal romantic partner is our “other half,” the answer to all our prayers and problems—which is absolutely not true! If you’ve recently gotten out of a relationship you have no clue why you got in or stayed in, sit with a journal and ask your soul questions like: Was there a subconscious pattern that brought me to this relationship? What was I looking for, or what problem was I trying to solve, with this partner? What did I learn from this relationship that I will use in my next relationship? What was my real subconscious motivation for staying in this relationship? What made it hard to walk away from this person? Who was I trying to please?
