MRI scans have shown nipple stimulation activates the same nerve cortex as clitoral and genital stimulation; your brain essentially can’t tell the difference. If you want to try to have a nipple orgasm, try this tantric nipple massage by yourself or with a partner: One reason women don’t have orgasms is because they are disconnected from their bodies and trapped in the negative thoughts swimming around in their minds. Get out of your head. Let go of any judgment. That’s the only way you can fully relax into your body. When you hear your own breath aloud, it helps get you out of your head and into your body. This helps you feel more pleasure for longer. As with everything in tantric sex and yoga, breathing is key to getting the most out of the practice. Begin at your belly. We hold a lot of stress here. Start with strokes around the belly, rib cage, and in between the breasts to tease yourself. Don’t touch your breasts yet. We want to take time to stir up our sexual energy before getting to the breasts and nipples. Alternate between a feather-like touch with your fingertips and a medium-light touch to caress your stomach, between your breasts, and your neck. Circling the breasts in large strokes around the areola and breast without touching the nipples continues to build anticipation. The big secret for this massage is edging, which is playing the edge of pleasure and teasing until the body responds by begging for more. This requires you to really listen to your body. Go slowly. Try not to focus on any end goal. Savor every touch and sensation. Take the time to become truly ready for the next phase. The nipples release oxytocin, the hormone that makes us feel good, relaxed, and gives us those warm and fuzzy feelings of love and bonding. Start by tracing the areola with a feather-like touch until the nipples become erect. Move between the nipples to the breasts to the neck and the belly. Then you can move on to pinching. Pinching from the root of the nipple stimulates oxytocin. This mimics breastfeeding, so it should be a firm pinch that may feel painful for a second but then becomes a rush of pleasure. If you pinch the nipples harder, there is a larger surge of oxytocin and more pleasure. It’s incredibly pleasurable as long as the nipples are aroused. Vary the pinching from lighter to stronger touches. From the strong pinch, you can move on to the rolling technique. Start pinching the nipples firmly at the root and begin rolling the nipple between the thumb and index finger. Play with varying pressure from lighter to very strong. Rolling can create even deeper waves of oxytocin release. Keep breathing through all of this, and if your mind wanders, focus on the sound of your breath. When we are teasing ourselves, edging our pleasure, and moving our orgasmic energy throughout our body, our orgasms can become like waves moving through every vertebra. When your body starts responding, massage yourself up to your neck, throat, head, temples, forehead, and scalp. Your scalp has very sensitive nerve endings as well. Arch your back and rock your spine back and forth while doing Kegel squeezes. Undulating your spine and rocking your hips helps create arousal through your whole body. Use your hands to caress your body, and keep focusing on your breathing. Place the tip of your tongue to the roof of your mouth to bring orgasmic energy into the mouth. You can tease your lower belly as if you were going to stimulate your clitoris, but don’t. Just keep drawing that energy up to the breasts. This makes a full circle of orgasmic energy in your whole body. When you start to feel really turned on, slow down. You want to create this back and forth of teasing, arousal, and anticipation and get to that edge of being close to orgasm. What you do at that point is up to you. Consider experimenting with the yoni massage (for vaginas), lingam massage (for penises), or edging to continue exploring new horizons of pleasure. Isadora passed away on March 26, 2017. During her life, Psalm made a name for herself as a bold, outspoken sex, relationships, and trauma expert who lived to inspire the next generation of women. She demystified the ancient secrets of Tantra to make them accessible to the modern masses. Raised in a religious cult as a child, Isadora endured years of sexual trauma that eventually ignited her passion to teach sexual empowerment and modern sex ed. In 2007, Isadora traveled to India to immerse herself in the ancient teachings of Tantra to facilitate deep healing and discover her own path as a healer. For eight years, Isadora traveled to India to delve deeper into the path of Tantra and teach yoga to sex-trafficked women in the red light district of Calcutta, work that would eventually become part of a documentary titled Shakti. She studied the Śrī Vidyā tradition of Tantra under spiritual guru Sri Amritananda (Guruji) in Pradesh, India, and was initiated into Shakti Tantra Yoga. We will miss you, Psalm. You will certainly never be forgotten.
