So, if you’re ready to make good shower sex a part of your routine, there are a few things you’ll want to consider or keep in mind before diving in. Here are some expert tips, positions that’ll help you find the right fit, and precautions to take. “If your shower has a handheld shower head, adjust the temperature and pressure to your liking and then run water over erogenous zones including the nipples, back of the neck, wrists, or clitoris,” sex therapist and LELO sex expert Casey Tanner, LCPC, recommends. An adjustable shower head will also come in handy here. “Aim the water away from your face,” Megwyn White, certified clinical sexologist and director of education for Satisfyer, recommends. “It’s best to position the shower head toward areas like your legs and lower back when it comes to shower sex.” Also be aware of what might be danger in your shower. Anything that’s easy to slip on should be removed, and make sure that anything you’re holding on to for support is securely fastened and won’t break while you’re mid-romp. (FYI, most shower rods cannot hold a human up and can cause injury if you try to hold onto them.) “Save your water-based lube for use outside the shower,” O’Reilly explains. “Since pure water is the main ingredient in these, they tend to wash away quickly when engaging in water play. Silicone-based lubes have a unique slick, silky feel that not only feels soothing to the skin but stays slippery and lasts longer underwater.” Sex therapist Michael Stokes, LMHC, says sex toys can be great for shower sessions as long as they’re water-safe. “Sex toys can add some great pleasure and fun in the shower. Dildos, fleshlights, butt plugs, and more!” he says. “It is fun to line them up on the counter in the bathroom and let your partner and yourself choose whichever one they want to incorporate! The more choices, the sexier it gets!” Sex toys, particularly if used internally, may need to be used with a silicone-based lube when used in the shower to make sure there’s enough lubrication. Be mindful of the temperature of the water around you, too. “It can get pretty hot having sex, so you should be mindful of keeping the water warm to both partners’ liking,” White says. “The last thing you want to do when you are in the heat of the moment is worry about adjusting the temperature valve.” “The benefit of this position is that it offers you the opportunity to face your partner directly,” White explains. “It’s a great position for G-spot stimulation, and you can use the shower water to stimulate the lower back to help release tensions. It feels really good!” “The benefit of this position is that it offers ample opportunity to stimulate the G-spot with oral stimulation,” she explains. “Arching the back and squatting will help to enhance.” “This is a great position to try with your partner for PIV sex and offers you a comfortable position to angle into the G-spot in just the right ways,” White says. “Straddle your partner with your legs wrapped while both are seated. Use the angle of your lean to intensify penetration, and the strength of your legs to modulate rhythm and depth. This position is great for getting more intimate with your partner, with the ability to make eye contact and also explore clitoral stimulation. It’s fairly easy to do and won’t cause you to slip, so it’s a safe bet for couples new to shower sex to experiment with.” White says the position itself offers a nice stretch to the calves, legs, and spine, which can calm the mind and increase circulation to the pelvic area and sexual organs. It’s also one that will be fairly easy to do. If you struggle with flexibility, you can also use a shower bench as a prop to support your upper body and arms. The easy cleanup also makes it great for period sex, they add, and it can also offer some soothing for period cramps. “Period sex in the shower can be both convenient and relaxing. Enjoy the soothing benefits of heat for cramps without the fear of leaving a stain.” She also recommends bringing a waterproof speaker into your shower and hitting play on a sexy playlist to up the ambience. “Don’t get too rough in the shower, as it will increase your chance of falling and cause your partner to tense up during sexual play,” White adds. “Take it slow, and always be a little bit cautious when it comes to positioning your body.” The same goes for anal sex, Chavez Qureshi adds: “For shower sex and anal, the most important tip is using the proper lubrication. The risk is lack of lubrication can cause damage to the delicate tissue in the anal canal. Any friction-based activity can cause damage to the tissue and introduce bacteria leading to infection.” While condoms will work in the shower, the condom is only effective if it stays on securely. And since the addition of water can increase the likelihood of slipping, you’ll want to be a little extra mindful. Chavez Qureshi emphasizes the importance of having a condom that is a proper fit and put on correctly. Lifestyles condom website also notes that “chemicals such as chlorine or additives such as bath oil or bubble bath may harm a latex condom.” As long as you’re safe and careful, shower sex can be a fun and easy way to mix things up.
